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| User: | miss_whiplash (1292800) An occasional thought . . .
. . . among the dross |
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| Name: | Catharsis | |||||||||||
| Location: | United Kingdom | |||||||||||
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| Bio: | About me Life is short but not static, each change brings new experiences. Some experiences are to be savoured, others just to be noted and and a few just to be survived, learned from, the pain they cause examined and then left behind. This journal is about me and part of my life's journey. Ten years ago I had a life changing event; denied even a few days leave when I needed it urgently, I was driven to a nervous breakdown, a total loss of control. It left a legacy and made the difference between living my life as I believed other people felt I should, and realising that I had to be myself. At the time it was both devastating and enjoyable, now I would count it as an overall positive event; it sorted out my real friends from hangers on and stopped people who had been ignoring my clearly stated needs in their tracks. I managed to shed responsibilities that I had been handed without reference to my own needs and to which I was not suited. In the process of recovering I learned quite painfully the damage that can be done in trying to be someone one is not and know I have no right to demand that of anyone. My guiding tenets in life have always been to be non-judgemental of others in their life-choices and open-minded to new ideas, the breakdown served to show me that I should accord the same courtesy to myself. My friends are important to me. I'm told that mine are strange; I would disagree but only to the extent that I think they are interesting people who have also learned to live life for themselves, not to fill some role society chooses for them. Nowadays my friends are those who are able to share their pain as well as their joy with me, they are far fewer in number than once they were, but also they are more precious to me. It's a two way process; my real-life friends are people who accept me as I am and know they have nothing to fear from being self-honest with me. If one of them asks me something and the answer has no bearing on the choices of another person I try to answer with as much honesty as I would answer the same question for myself. Of late I've seen myself in a light I had never considered in my adult life. Despite the LJ name; a suggestion from one who wished it so, I had never seen myself as dominant. It seems others saw me that way far more readily than I could for myself. I'm enjoying exploring this side of myself and lucky enough to have friends who know me, help me and accept me for who I am. About my Journal I have been editing this bio a lot recently, and will continue to do so as my view of what I want to share about myself changes. Recently I've layered the journal into trivial, public stuff; deeper, friends-only stuff; more personal stuff shown to only a few and very few private entries where I use it to work something out. I'll choose the level you will see depending on what I know about you, but if you feel I show you too much, I'll remove you from some of my lists - just ask. Lost something? If you used to be able to read more than you can now, that will be because I have removed some people on my friends list who have not posted from some of my custom groups that give access to deeper layers. Comment and post in your journal and I may add you back; make no comment and you will come off my friends list entirely. I regard friendship as a two-way process and reading and not posting is one-sided. About you - just visiting? And almost finally My tags list is linked from here because it is such a nuisance to find any other way. In the interest of keeping the tag list short the terms are generally quite general and many bad puns are employed. Enjoy!
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| Memories:: | 3 entries | |||||||||||
| Interests: | 147: 4x4, adopting dogs, adrongynous men, affection, alternative therapies, amusing pornography, aromatherapy, bathing, bbc radio 4, being happy, being hugged, being pleased, bisexuality, book stores, bookcrossing, books, burl ives, caffeine, camping, candles, cats, chatting, chemistry, clannad, coffee, coffee shops, comedy, computers, corsetry, corsets, cuddles, cuddling, curries, dark angel, delayed gratification, discussion, dog training, dogs, domination, dr syn, dragons, driving, enya, erotica, experimentation, folk, food, freecycle, friends, friendship, fun, garlic, good but unpretentious food, good coffee, good food, green laning, herb-lore, herblore, honest people, honesty, hot wax, hugging, humor, innerchild, joan baez, kissing, laning, led zeppelin, legends, libraries, literature, london, long hair, love, marvel, massage, massages, meaningful conversation, meditating, meditation, mens bodies, mens in skirts, mistresses, motor sport, my slave, myths, off road, open-mindedness, owning dogs, pasta, people, people-watching, personal growth, photography, pink floyd, pleasure, polyamory, puzzles, reading, red dwarf, rights of way, road trips, robert heinlein, rock music, rope, rope splicing, safety, sandals, sci-fi, science, science fiction, self discovery, self expression, self honesty, sensuality, sex, sexuality, six feet under, slave, snuggling, stockings, stress, stroking, tantra, thinking, touching, training my pet, trance, travel, travelling, travelling hopefully, trivia, trust, truth, tyres, used bookstores, vangelis, vegetarian food, vegetarianism, veggie food, walking, walking barefoot, women, womens bodies, word play, words, yoga | |||||||||||
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